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Guardians of the Galaxy Awesome Mix Vol. 2 – Twisted Mixtape Returns!

I want to thank Marvel, James Gunn and the powers that be, for reaching deep down inside my soul and reviving my love of the mixtape. I admit it, I was lost, I had replaced my passion with lifeless monotony. I was still in flux when it came to the decision to revive our mixtape […]

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August 11, 2014 - 9:28 pm

Sarah Almond - Because this mix goes to 11, that makes it that more awesome! :-D

August 11, 2014 - 10:38 pm

Dana - I’ve missed you Jen! I’m not linking up but I couldn’t miss your mix tape. It always make me smile. I haven’t seen this movie…come to think of it, I haven’t seen a movie in the theater in almost a year. I need to get out more…

August 12, 2014 - 2:04 am

Janine Huldie - Ok, I smiled whe I got the newsletter tonight and must admit the playlist definitely didn’t disappoint with The Beatles on it and even so many greats, including Thin Lizzy! So good to have you back my friend now :)

August 12, 2014 - 5:51 am

Michelle Liew - Yee haw!! A wonderful mix from Guardians!!will be linking up tomorrow, Jen!

August 12, 2014 - 10:13 am

seablackwithink - welcome back muse! rock it jen:)

August 12, 2014 - 12:43 pm

Kerri - This is quite simply, awesome. I knew EXACTLY in what part of the movie every song would go. Especially cause you know Quill is going to mess up. I hear there is already a sequel planned. I’ll see you at the drive in!

August 12, 2014 - 8:51 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Yes, but this one goes to 11.

August 12, 2014 - 8:52 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thank you Dana! It’s good to be back! Maybe with the once a month thing, you’ll be able to come back again and play for one of the themes! And GO SEE IT! I don’t get to see movies either, but I just couldn’t miss this one!

August 12, 2014 - 8:52 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thanks Michelle! Can’t wait!

August 12, 2014 - 8:53 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thanks Didi! Been waiting a while to get back on that horse, Guardians gave me the shove I needed!

August 12, 2014 - 8:53 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Oh yes Kerri, we do know these things, don’t we?

August 12, 2014 - 11:04 pm

Louise - So excited you’re coming back and couldn’t miss your “soft launch”. Such a fun first list. It almost makes me want to go see a movie for the first time in, well, a while. Enjoying the Cars at the moment…

Not linking because I haven’t seen the movie – but looking forward to seeing you in the fall :).

August 13, 2014 - 11:14 am

Kir - One of my dream “blogger meet ups” is to just sit with you somewhere (preferably near an ocean, holding cocktails) and have you tell me about music..or just chatting about bands and songs and lyrics with you until you tell me some amazing obscure story about a 70′s band. (Like the other day I heard on the radio about how Pablo Cruise isn’t a person, it’s a band and I was just tickled for the day knowing that. Like knowing the stories behind the people and the music is almost better than the songs.)

Baby, Come Back..sigh
I’m Not In ;)
adding Elvis Costello..sweet
loved every single song.

August 13, 2014 - 5:56 pm

Melissa Stepp - Some solid choices this week Jen! I def thought of you when I saw the film and was very happy to see this post go up! Love these in particular: Boston, The Cars, Player. Really all of them. 11 felt too tight! That’s the problem with an iPod, you don’t have to edit yourself. 1000 song playlist? Sure!

August 13, 2014 - 7:31 pm

Sarah Hodge-Wetherbe - I thought Shining Star by Earth Wind and Fire would work well for this too! :) But I love this list and I’m now inspired to start on my own!

August 13, 2014 - 11:36 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thank you so much for coming by Louise!! I am very excited too, it really took this movie to get me excited to play again. I hope you get to see it. I don’t have a lot of opportunites to go to movies, but I couldn’t miss this one!
Looking forward to seeing you in September!

August 13, 2014 - 11:37 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Kir, I would really love it, I would. I remember when I realized that Dawn wasn’t a person in Tony Orlando and Dawn. Cause you know it was like The Captain and Tenille ;-) I will talk music, especially 70′s music 24/7 if you let me….
So happy we’re back together!

August 17, 2014 - 2:36 pm

Eli@coachdaddy - Michael Jordan, bell bottoms, every boxer who ever boxed: Are you listening?

This. THIS is how you make a comeback!

I want this mix for any time I feel the need to kick a little ass.


August 17, 2014 - 2:56 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Wow! Now that is a compliment! Thanks so much Eli! I owe you a post, and now that I’m back on the horse… :-)

Mommy Fail Number 235 – Model Car Kit

I only go to Michael’s in an emergency; I can’t be trusted. This time, I put my blinders on to pick out a birthday present for one of Isaiah’s friends. I passed the scrapbook stickers, looked straight ahead as I walked by the colored pencils and didn’t even peak at the already-here-way-to-early Halloween decorations. I was surgical, I […]

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August 4, 2014 - 9:08 am

Jean - -I said, “I thought it would be nice for you two to have something to do together.”-
You’re a ninja.
He did a great job, even considering the Kragle fingers.

August 4, 2014 - 9:12 am

Jennifer Kehl - LOL, thanks for getting it Jean! And I think he secretly likes the Kragle fingers ;-)

August 4, 2014 - 11:01 am

Sarah @ LeftBrainBuddha - Nailed it!! (both you and Isaiah). I love the Lego movie reference — better to be a master builder than a slave to the rulebook. :)

August 4, 2014 - 11:22 am

Kerri - First, I refuse. I mean REFUSE to enter a Michael’s or an AC Moore store. I make Abby go with her grandmother(s) or aunt(s) with the rule that whatever is purchased is put together by the person who had a brain fart and spent money on it.

But more importantly how freaking awesome is a kid with SPD that managed to glue, paint, get krunchy and more importantly NOT FREAK OUT that he is now resembling a Smurf?

And on top of that he managed not to ignite the house on fire. So I think mommy win all around.

August 4, 2014 - 11:31 am

that cynking feeling - I’m pretty sure the failure would have been valuing order over learning and forcing your vision of what the sheriff’s car should look like over his. Isaiah can now be proud of and play with the toy he made instead of showing off a model perfectly assembled by someone else.
Hurray for messes!

August 4, 2014 - 2:03 pm

Sarah Almond - LOL! Love it! Especially the Kragle reference… ;-) There are no mom failures in life. Period.

August 4, 2014 - 6:10 pm

Jennifer Kehl - I agree Sarah! Lose the instructions!

August 4, 2014 - 6:11 pm

Jennifer Kehl - For real Kerri. It is beyond ridiculous and I always regret it.
And totally about the SPD! It’s amazing how much he’s grown over the last few years. It’s part of why I can’t write about it so much anymore. I know I should keep sharing, but he’s outgrown so many things I NEVER thought he would get over!
And no fires. Basically that’s all that matters ;-)

August 4, 2014 - 6:12 pm

Jennifer Kehl - I completely agree with you Cyn. And I’m learning to say hurray for messes!

August 4, 2014 - 6:12 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Oh Sarah…you’re right. But it still feels like it sometimes, doesn’t it? This one really was a win though.

August 6, 2014 - 10:05 am

Kristi Campbell - This post makes me so happy in a billion ways. What an awesome little dude you have! He did excellently and Kraggle fingers are super annoying (I had them this weekend trying to Kraggle a marble game toy together that keeps falling apart). He’s going to rock the white and crunchy look in his bathing suit, because PROUD. So, um, has he asked to blow the car up yet? ;)

August 6, 2014 - 10:09 am

Kristi Campbell - also G+’d and tweeted but forgot to tag you in the tweet!

August 8, 2014 - 9:25 pm

Deb @ Urban Moo Cow - I mean… I can’t believe you even tried it. Beyond my skillz, that’s for sure. You know, it kind of looks like it is covered in icing, which makes me want to eat it, which makes me realize why i’m 20 lbs overweight. ;-) Welcome back, sistah.

Does your sensory kid hate brushing his teeth? How about your typical kid? You can thank me later.

If this is your first time here, let me introduce myself. I may not be a Sensory Processing Disorder expert, but I play one on TV. Actually, scratch that. I am an expert. I know more than every expert, pediatrician, and psychiatrist I’ve seen yet. Why do I know more? Because I won’t take “I […]

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July 10, 2014 - 7:03 am

Kimberly - That is amazing and pretty much the coolest effing thing ever. Look at him! Not the bear.
You’re a good momma and you should be a doctor.
Can you diagnose this wart on my foot?

July 15, 2014 - 9:40 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thanks Kim!!! I never thought the kid would go for it! Who knew??
And yes. Get that foot over here ASAP

July 31, 2014 - 1:05 pm

Angel The Alien - I hated brushing my teeth as a kid… I hated the taste of the toothpaste and the feel of the brush in my mouth. Still do… bleh! But that is great that the bear works! What a simple solution most people would never have thought of!

August 1, 2014 - 7:29 pm

Kristi Rieger Campbell - What an awesome awesome idea! Tucker’s never been to the dentist, either. We finally got him to start brushing his teeth, but can’t use toothpaste (I think we’ve tried about 13 different kinds and now i figure at least he’s brushing a little bit). Thanks, Jen! Pinned!

August 4, 2014 - 9:12 am

Jennifer Kehl - Angel, I thought it was a load of huey until I tried it!

I’m not saying YOUR child doesn’t have anxiety. I’m saying just because mine likes to control everything doesn’t mean HE does.

I think I may have over-advocated for my son a few weeks back. You didn’t think there was such a thing did you? It’s kind of like Munchausen by Proxy, only not. I wasn’t making him sick or faking symptoms or anything. No, instead I was willing to accept a list of possible disorders based […]

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June 2, 2014 - 8:50 am

Kerri - YES!!!! He is a Tarantino, a Speilberg, a Lucas…he is going to change the world. Sometimes I worry about the kids that are perfectly “normal” but immature, like my oldest. They live in a fantasy world half the time. Why do anyone of us have to be typical. When did we stop using our imagination and just checking boxes? good for you for understanding your boys genius. And being patient enough to realize that his dynamite today is just practice for his big screen debut

June 2, 2014 - 9:19 am

Jennifer Kehl - Thank you Kerri! It’s such a fine balance to walk. Why does everyone want their children to be “average”? I don’t want that. The shy need to come out of their shell, the excited extroverted kids need to calm down. Eh. Forget it. Our kids should be what who they are, not what “fits”, right?!

June 2, 2014 - 1:37 pm

Sarah - This is so funny, and I admire your coolness. Your son reminds me of my nephew: there is a clear plan in his brain, and he organizes everyone around him in it. I love that. A truly creative, imaginative brain. Good for you for making that judgement call.

June 2, 2014 - 3:04 pm

Deb @ Urban Moo Cow - Loved this jen. Sometimes a spade is just a spade. Or an imaginative little boy. We are so primed for pathology in our society.

June 2, 2014 - 5:07 pm

Sarah Almond - YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :-D

(We creative visionaries, there are so few of us in this world.)

June 2, 2014 - 6:29 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thanks Sarah! You gotta love those creative types. Can’t get in front of their vision or they might knock you down!

June 2, 2014 - 6:30 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thanks Deb, that means a lot. And you are so right. That is exactly my point. So many parents want a diagnosis where there really isn’t anything but behaviour that diverges from average.

June 2, 2014 - 6:31 pm

Jennifer Kehl - You know it!

June 2, 2014 - 7:49 pm

Sarah @ LeftBrainBuddha - Doesn’t pretty much every human being like to be in control? In fact, isn’t it considered psychologically unhelpful if we feel completely out of control? or that we have no control at all? I love your interpretation of events at the end. What a creative kid!

June 2, 2014 - 8:11 pm

Jennifer Kehl - That’s right Sarah!! Isn’t that what it boils down to? I realized all the sudden that I had been railroaded into thinking it was odd. No way!

June 2, 2014 - 9:15 pm

nothingbythebook - Way to go, Jen. He’s so lucky to have you. And the world is so lucky to have him.

June 2, 2014 - 9:17 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thanks Jane!

June 3, 2014 - 8:52 am

emma - I especially love how he recognized that the doctor was really interested in the death and destruction stories. Of course he’s going to pick up on that and elaborate once he sees he’s captured the adult’s interest! I took my son Ky to the Kennedy Krieger institute before he was diagnosed with SPD and he was interviewed by a doctor whose specialty was OCD. She asked Ky if he ever did stuff like “counting the ceiling tiles” and so naturally he looked up at the exam room ceiling tiles (so did I, you kind of had to once it had been mentioned) and she smugly informed us that he had OCD, counting tiles was “classic” OCD behavior, etc etc. Ky’s take away from the appointment was that the doctor was obsessed with ceiling tiles for some reason and though he himself didn’t care about the ceiling, he thought it was cool that her job was to make kids count them for her. Sigh.

June 4, 2014 - 4:25 pm

Janine Huldie - Jen, I smiled reading the end and could totally have told you from all I have read and gotten to know with Isaiah that he is truly gifted, amazing little boy. Seriously, you didn’t need to pay me for 45 minute sessions’ fees to find this out. And honestly, just wish I could reach out and hug Isaiah now more then ever! :)

June 4, 2014 - 5:11 pm

Dana - I think you are one astute mother who knows her child very well. Doctors may be excellent and well meaning, but you know best. Well, probably Isaiah knows best!

June 5, 2014 - 8:06 pm

Katia - Beautiful! I so often see Ben in Isaiah and read this not only as Isaiah’s mom’s friend but also as Ben’s mom and it strikes a double chord with me. Such a beautiful musing about creativity. Wonderful!

June 6, 2014 - 1:44 pm

Emma @ P is for Preschooler - What a great post! It reminded me of a boy I went to school with, who was always writing stories about what would now be considered too “violent”. Fact was, he was just a creative kid with a great imagination. What a lucky boy Isaiah is to have a mom who gets that!

June 6, 2014 - 6:52 pm

Jennifer Hughes - Oh good grief. That guy sounds like perhaps he was looking for something! At night, we’ve been play acting a story about V’s green alien and how he crashes at Six Flags and goes on all of these adventures. And do you think that boy lets me make up some of the story.?Ha! It was MY idea and now he directs it all. He’s got a vision and he’s sticking to it.

June 27, 2014 - 9:14 am

thedoseofreality - Love this…love that you figured out exactly what was making him tick…my little one has an incredible imagination in much the same way.-Ashley

June 27, 2014 - 3:07 pm

celeste - This is FABULOUS. I can’t wait to see all of the wonderful creations your little visionary will bring to the world. :)

June 28, 2014 - 3:13 am

Natalie DeYoung Ricci - Love this. Love, love, love.
He sounds the way I was as a kid – full of stories & creative vision. You’re an insightful mama.

July 1, 2014 - 2:07 pm

Jennifer Kehl - I know Emma! I don’t know why Dr’s want to label kids so badly. But I’m glad we both got the real picture!

July 1, 2014 - 2:08 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Janine, you’re awesome! Thank you so much for always being so sweet and encouraging.

July 1, 2014 - 2:10 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thank you Celeste! There is certainly more to come, and if you want to see what he’s up to his site is

July 1, 2014 - 2:10 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Aw shucks Dana, thank you!

July 1, 2014 - 2:11 pm

Jennifer Kehl - I think it is a gift to be able to see inside our children so clearly, Katia. I know you have that too. xo

July 1, 2014 - 2:11 pm

Jennifer Kehl - It’s so true Emma, isn’t it? I am lucky I homeschool I think!

July 1, 2014 - 2:13 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thank you Ashley! I am glad I figured it out too!

The Commotion You Know

  Isaiah’s tennis teacher is a saint. He specializes in teaching 4-8 year olds tennis. Enough said. As the mother of an 8-year-old I can personally vouch for how difficult that must be. Oh wait – I forget we are assuming that child is typical. But my child is not typical, and this class includes […]

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May 16, 2014 - 6:18 am

Janine Huldie - I truly don’t think anyone had to teach this to you, because I know what a wonderful and compassionate mother you are to Isaiah. But still glad that people like Isaiah’s tennis coach are understanding and help to make it easier at times for you at the very least. By the way, just so glad you joined us today an happy to have you link up :)

May 16, 2014 - 7:41 am

Kerith Stull - As the mother of an 18yo daughter with a visible disability (moderate cerebral palsy – she walks with a limp), I’ve often thought about the kids around us at special needs events who don’t “look disabled.” My husband might turn to me and ask, “Why do you think that kid is here?” And I always respond, “Not all disabilities are visible. We don’t know what’s happening inside.” He gets sick of me responding that way, but we all need to realize that what you think you see might not be what’s really there. Thanks for pointing that out to all of us!

(Visiting from #FTSF)

May 16, 2014 - 8:43 am

Jean - We are pulling my son from tennis after this session is over because the echoes are too distracting for him! Did you talk with your son about how to deal in the racquet ball court (dear God, I can’t even imagine what that sounds like) or did he come up with that on his own?

May 16, 2014 - 9:21 am

Kristi Campbell - Sometimes being the commotion is how he deals with the commotion is so profound and perfectly stated. Really. You’re the bestest mom and he’s such a cool dude – I’m glad that there are coaches in his life who teach him with kindness and empathy. That’s a true gift.

May 16, 2014 - 1:40 pm

Stephanie @ Mommy, for Real. - That last line gave me chills. So much insight there. He is beyond lucky to have an advocate as wise and empathetic as you.

May 16, 2014 - 1:51 pm

Chris at Hye Thyme Cafe - Hmmm, I wonder if he’s a “visual” learner if in that particular circumstance, maybe headphones might help? If he could distract himself with a soothing song playing and still be able to learn by watching without all the distracting sounds. Must be frustrating, but it’s great that the teacher and apparently the other kids in the class seem to be managing it well with him. :)

May 16, 2014 - 3:59 pm

Kelly McKenzie - Both my two are now coaching and teaching swimming. One day my son tumbled into the car with a huge grin on his face. “I had the best little guy today Mom. We worked on back floats today for the first time. As soon as he got floating he starts singing REALLY loudly the theme song for a tv show. Not the whole thing. Just the “MAX AND RUBY!” part. It was so cool. I let him just carry on for a good 15 minutes. He was so so so happy.”
Thank you for sharing the point of view of the floater Jen. I’ll pass that on to my son.

May 16, 2014 - 9:21 pm

Katia - I so appreciate your quest to make Isaiah’s condition more understandable and relatable to others. I found the post helpful and touching and heart-squeezing, especially that line where you talk about how for him coming up with that line he sang over and over again is a defense mechanism against the attack on his senses. That just made me want to reach out and hug him through the screen, and you amazing mama that you are.

May 16, 2014 - 9:26 pm

Anna Fitfunner - First of all, Yay Jen!

Welcome back! I’ve really missed your blogging and posts. It was a wonderful surprise to see your name on this FTSF hop. Please keep coming back!

One point: getting “Looks” as a parent of a special needs parent goes with the territory. Sometimes, another parent will just get it, and then the Look melts into sympathy. If that doesn’t happen, then I’ve developed my own Look. It’s a mixture of invitation and attitude: “Yep, my boy not acting normally. Happy to chat with you about it, but if you go over the line I WILL cut you. So, shall we begin?”

See you next week?


May 16, 2014 - 10:21 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thank you Janine! I am always blessed when someone “gets” him!

May 16, 2014 - 10:22 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Kerith thank you so much. It’s moms like you who really make a difference. Even if it’s one husband at a time!

May 16, 2014 - 10:23 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Oh no Jean. Isaiah does that stuff all by himself!

May 16, 2014 - 10:24 pm

Jennifer Kehl - You’re the best mom Kristi!!! I feel like we both get it, and we both get each other, and we both have AMAZING boys!

May 16, 2014 - 10:24 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thank you Stephanie!

May 16, 2014 - 10:26 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Actually Chris, he is more of an auditory learner, he can memorize 10 minute soliliquys he hears. He has headphones, and we have done music therapy. He uses his headphones when the dogs are barking a lot. But as far as learning goes, funnily enough it doesn’t effect his ability!

May 16, 2014 - 10:26 pm

Jennifer Kehl - That’s an awesome story Kelly!!! Please share this with him, the more coaches that “get it” the more wonderful the world is!

May 16, 2014 - 10:27 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Awww Katia. Thank you. I really do feel it’s so important to share. It’s that looking typical thing that always makes it harder, so I think it’s important to share.

May 16, 2014 - 10:29 pm

Jennifer Kehl - Thanks Anna! I’m not completely back. I am in an intensive 3 month web design course and man… but I just realized this short post really fit this week’s theme.

I do agree with you. I get both looks. I just focus on the not so understanding because those are the people who I hope to reach, and I hope will look differently at kids they don’t understand.

Thanks for stopping by!

May 16, 2014 - 10:30 pm

Chris at Hye Thyme Cafe - Bummer! Awesome for memorization, not so awesome for dealing with those distractions. Sigh …

May 17, 2014 - 8:19 am

Emma - My son is now almost 19, and he has what I’d guess is somewhere near the same type of sensory processing disorder as Isaiah. Only back when he was Isaiah’s age SPD either wasn’t known or talked about as much, or it was harder to diagnose. So Ky was incorrectly diagnosed with (and disastrously attempted treatment for) things like OCD, or mild autism, or ‘oppositional defiant disorder’ (when he was actually a really easy going kid) etc.

The WORST environments for him besides IMAX and the signing of Happy Birthday were team sports, and it was exactly what you described – all the echoing noise and disordered activity. I wouldn’t have even attempted tennis or racquetball! And it’s wonderful that Isaiah can find that internal way to cope, and that you can work past whatever social embarrassment comes from other parents thinking you just don’t care enough to discipline the relative annoyance of a repetitive song out of him.

Reading this brought back so many memories of the stress ball in my son’s stomach, and my stomach watching him, from team sports, and then how finding that one coach who seemed to get it and work past it could change so much about the experience. I’m so glad to have found your blog and have passed it on to my son, who feels a little cheated that he wasn’t officially diagnosed with SPD (especially the auditory processing issues) until he was in high school and had already learned a bunch of less healthy coping devices, and a huge hit to his self esteem. The great part is that as an older teen, things have smoothed out very nicely. It’s really great to read about a parent who gets it and handles it so well.

May 17, 2014 - 8:17 pm

April - My son also sings and talks as if no one else is around. He has been tested and he’s just… well him. I definitely admire anyone who who deal with that age range. It’s a tough one.

May 19, 2014 - 3:12 am

Kate Hall - Aw, this is really nice. What a great tennis instructor. I taught tennis for a while back in college. I taught ages 6-12. There was always chaos on the court. I joined in. The head instructor didn’t really appreciate my joining in that much.

May 21, 2014 - 3:26 am

MyTwice BakedPotato - As an elementary teacher of usually 22+ and a parent to a 2e sensory impacted kiddo, I totally get the value of this great coach! We have a swimming teacher that we feel the same way about! Doesn’t matter that she is far or expensive -she gets him :)

May 23, 2014 - 4:32 am

Kimberly - My hairdresser told me at my last appointment that he son was diagnosed with SPD. She said that the school that he WAS attending treated him like an outcast and wouldn’t help him. When he was assigned with a support worker, she could not believe how evil and toxic the environment and teacher was. The teacher told the children that they were not allowed to play with this FIVE year old because he was TROuBLE. He had a hard time understanding and when he didn’t understand he got frustrated which is totally understandable especially when he wasn’t getting help.
So horrible.

May 31, 2014 - 5:48 pm

Yvonne - I’ve not heard of this before, but how fortunate that your son has you to look out for him and such a great coach.

June 24, 2014 - 4:10 pm

Shay from Trashy Blog - I don’t have sensory issues and this is something I do on a regular basis, so I think it’s pretty awesome! :) You know what nipped my judgy-wudgy attitude in the bud HARD? Having my own kids. They are RAMBUNCTIOUS, so I will never again judge another mom with a loud kid. I usually smile at them and silently thank God that it isn’t my kid…this time. :) Great post.

July 1, 2014 - 2:12 pm

Jennifer Kehl - I love that your kids are RAMBUNCTIOUS! Lord knows my boy is. And no one in my family gets it. But at least I do!

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